The words we're told not to say are usually the most precise ones we have.
George Carlin built a career on seven of them. Midge Maisel got arrested for a few. The joke, in both cases, was that the censorship was more absurd than the words, because everyone in the room already knew exactly what they meant. That's the point of a word. To be understood.
Language is situational. A word that's exactly right at the bench is wrong in the boardroom, and the reverse is also true. Nobody argues with that. The problem is when we confuse "wrong for this room" with "wrong," and start sanding down everything we say until it fits every room and means nothing in any of them.
Corporate speak is what censorship looks like when you do it to yourself. "We're aligning on next steps." "Let's take that offline." "Circle back." Every one of those is a specific thought that someone was too careful to say. And the listener knows it, and trusts the speaker a little less.
There's also a language of emotion, and most of us learned it late or not at all. You can be young enough to learn a second language fluently. The window for learning to say "I'm frustrated and here's why" without it coming out as an attack seems to close for a lot of people around fourteen. It can be reopened. It takes practice and it takes a room where the practice is safe.
Which brings it back to leading people. Be specific. Say the real thing. Not blunt for the sake of it, and not cruel, but exact. Specific use, not direct assault. Read the room and then still say something true in it.
The only power a loud person has is the power the quiet ear gives them. Choose your words so the quiet ear has a reason to stay.